Saturday, I was heading to a birthday brunch for my very first friend, Lisa. She lives about an hour away so I decided I would tune in to SGN The Light (ironically, the first radio station to ever interview me and tell 2.5 million listeners that I exist). Often, when you get a room full of women together, there is drama (have you seen Basketball Wives?) So I thought I’d would get myself prepared Spiritually and mentally by tuning in to some good Gospel music for the drive. However, there was no music. Just preaching! Ironically, the message that was on was being brought by Dr. Claybon Lea, Jr. (whose father was my first Pastor and the man who baptized both Lisa and I together in 1978). I thought…hmmm… this must be a sign! Once Dr. Lea began his message, I was at full attention! His sermon topic was “Rules without Relationship cause Rebellion”
While I certainly didn’t intend for this blog to be a “bible lesson” this was just too good not to share. One of the Scripture references Dr. Lea used was Colosians 2:7 and it’s full of nuggets that will help us in both our personal and professional lives.
|Col 2:7||rooted and built up in Him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness.|
To best relate this to workplace relationships… let’s go over some key words found in that verse.
Root[ed]: The part of the body of a plant the develops; begin to grow.
Built: To Increase or develop toward a maximum; prepare in stages
Strengthen [ed]: To make or grow stronger
Taught [teach]: To impart knowledge of or skill in; give instruction
Thanksgiving: An expression of thanks; a public acknowledgment
As I drove down the road, I though, hmmmm, I wonder what would happen in the workplace if people would simply :
- Began a relationship with co-workers instead of saying through word and action, I’m the boss.
- Take the time to grow relationship in stages and grow them for maximum result instead of writing people up for insubordination, just because they are mad about something.
- Build each others workplace confidence instead of seeing everyone as competition (which makes the team and the organization become and grow stronger as a whole)
- Impart knowledge and skill into others instead of withholding information as a form of job security.
- Say Thank You and publicly acknowledge those members of the team who help them pull things off.
I just think if we get back to understanding how vital relationship building is we would stop through titles and demands around and realize , if you don’t treat people right, they will rebel against you and your rules. That includes your company, your brand, your products and every esle that is attached to you. The bottom line is people do business with people they know, like, and trust. Relationship building is crucial in both personal and business affairs. The Rules of “Relationship” haven’t changed along with trends and the ups/downs of the economy. One thing that has remained the the same is relationships built on the ‘What’s In It For Me? Model” DO NOT WORK! Relationships that are built on mutual respect and understanding will always garner a positive response.
If you are new to the company, new to the team, new to the department, new on a particular project, new to a networking group, etc – - be kind, be respectful, and in some cases, just be quiet. It helps to understand the culture of a thing before trying to change it. If you haven’t added anything to the pot, please don’t criticize what others are brewing, or better yet…don’t criticize what’s in the pot until you’ve tasted it!
Oh and the birthday bash was beautiful…and full women with awesome Spirits. Pure fun!
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